My Top Holiday Reads for ‘Self Help’ Lovers…

My Top Holiday Reads for ‘Self Help’ Lovers…

With a holiday to Cuba only 4 weeks away I’ve been trawling the internet in search of my next holiday read to take with me on my travels and it occurred to me that i’m always telling my friends when I have read a good book especially if it is one that has helped me in some way or I feel that they maybe need it in there lives.  In fact a lot of my favorite books I no longer even have as I often lend them to friends (of course I never get them back! You know who you are!).

So in the spirit of sharing  I have compiled a list of some of my favorite self help reads for you to consider next time you need a little self help, a good holiday read to stimulate the mind whilst relaxing the body or maybe for your next book club …




SHANIE SAY’S: Sheryl Sandburg is what all women in business should aspire to be like. She has to be the copyright owner of work /life balance for working mothers. Not only is she the top dog at Facebook next to Mark Zuckerburg, She also advocates leaving the office dead on 5pm so she can put her children to bed every night. She is a genuine all around awesome and inspiring women. Just read it…. you’ll see for yourself  how fab she is and you will take away a lot from her empowering words of advice.


Sheryl Sandberg’s Lean In is a massive cultural phenomenon and its title has become an instant catchphrase for empowering women. The book soared to the top of bestseller lists internationally, igniting global conversations about women and ambition. Sandberg packed theatres, dominated opinion pages, appeared on every major television show and on the cover of Time magazine, and sparked ferocious debate about women and leadership.

Ask most women whether they have the right to equality at work and the answer will be a resounding yes, but ask the same women whether they’d feel confident asking for a raise, a promotion, or equal pay, and some reticence creeps in.

The statistics, although an improvement on previous decades, are certainly not in women’s favour – of 197 heads of state, only twenty-two are women. Women hold just 20 percent of seats in parliaments globally, and in the world of big business, a meagre eighteen of the Fortune 500 CEOs are women.

In Lean In, Sheryl Sandberg – Facebook COO and one of Fortune magazine’s Most Powerful Women in Business – draws on her own experience of working in some of the world’s most successful businesses and looks at what women can do to help themselves, and make the small changes in their life that can effect change on a more universal scale.




SHANIE SAY’S: ” This book should have 3 michelin stars, that is if they handed them out for relationship advice. Incredible powerful knowledge that can change the way you treat your loved one and change your expectations for yourself in a relationship. It will show you what really matters to you in the world of love and relationships and will open your eyes to recognise what matters to your partner as well. This book is such an eye opener and will leave you wondering why the hell you didn’t figure all this out yourself a long long time ago as it makes so much damn sense. This book –  two words =  MARRIAGE SAVER!!! Yep I said it. Do ya want to know what’s really important in Love…. get this book now.  It is an easy read as well; 2 days and I had read it cover to cover! Big fan!


Falling in love is easy. Staying in love—that’s the challenge. How can you keep your relationship fresh and growing amid the demands, conflicts, and just plain boredom of everyday life?

In the #1 New York Times bestseller The 5 Love Languages, you’ll discover the secret that has transformed millions of relationships worldwide. Whether your relationship is flourishing or failing, Dr. Gary Chapman’s proven approach to showing and receiving love will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your partner—starting today.

The 5 Love Languages is as practical as it is insightful. Updated to reflect the complexities of relationships today, this new edition reveals intrinsic truths and applies relevant, actionable wisdom in ways that work.

Includes the Couple’s Personal Profile assessment so you can discover your love language and that of your loved one.



WRITTEN BY: Arianna Huffington

SHANIE SAY’S: Arianna Huffington is an inspirational woman. She is truly fearless and ambitious and wants to help women everywhere fulfil their potential. She is an independent self made woman who inspired me to thrive in business and unapologetically be myself both at work and in life… I am currently mid way through her latest offering ‘Thrive’ this is definitely worth a read.


Arianna Huffington uses stories from her own life, from contemporary women she admires, and from women in history and literature to show how to be bold, how to make yourself bulletproof, and how to act without dreading the reactions of others.
As a mother, politician, and businesswoman, Huffington discusses how to be strong, be your best self, and stop looking over your shoulder for approval.
In chapters such as Fearlessness at Work, Fearlessness in Relationships, Fearlessness in Parenting, and Fearlessness in Aging, she delivers instructive and much-needed lessons about how to flourish as a fearless woman in today’s world.



WRITTEN BY: Robert T Kiyosaki

SHANIE SAY’S: ” This book entirely changed the way I thought about money, saving it, spending it and investing it. Such an informative book that every single human being should read when learning about money and credit. Since reading this book I have gone on to buy my own home and am planning to invest further in property next year. THIS BOOK IS A LIFE CHANGER!”


Rich Dad Poor Dad, the #1 Personal Finance book of all time, tells the story of Robert Kiyosaki and his two dads–his real father and the father of his best friend, his rich dad–and the ways in which both men shaped his thoughts about money and investing. The book explodes the myth that you need to earn a high income to be rich and explains the difference between working for money and having your money work for you.



WRITTEN BY: Steve Harvey

SHANIE SAY’S: ” This book kept me sane during a break in my relationship and really helped me pull things back together. It helped me regain perspective and control  and hit the reset button on my relationship so that when we got back together we started things in a good place. This book is great for all young women struggling to understand the games  that are played and the modern day complicated scenarios that women find themselves in when dating. Perfect for women with man children, single women with children and women who keep attracting the same old guys.”


“Harvey offers surprising insights into the male mentality and gives women strategies for taming that unruly beast.”
Philadelphia Inquirer

“Women should listen to Steve Harvey when it comes to what a good man is about. Steve Harvey dispenses a lot of fabulous information about men.”
—Aretha Franklin

The #1 New York Times bestseller from the new guru of relationship advice, Steve Harvey’s Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man is an invaluable self-help book that can empower women everywhere to take control of their relationships. The host of a top-rated radio show listened to by millions daily—and of cable TV’s The Steve Harvey Project—Harvey knows what men really think about love, intimacy, and commitment. In Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man, the author, media personality, and stand-up comedian gets serious, sharing his wealth of knowledge, insight, and no-nonsense advice for every good woman who wants to find a good man or make her current love last.



WRITTEN BY: His Holiness The Dali Lama & Howard C Cutler

SHANIE SAYS: “I would recommend this book for anyone looking for a little spiritual enlightenment and perspective.

Buddhism is such a peaceful wonderful wisdom which I beleive anyone from any religion, colour or creed can learn something from. Its an incredible read during the summer months relaxing in your back garden or in a public park sipping on an iced tea or coffee.

Its great to make you stop, to be still and to think”


In this unique and important book, one of the world’s great spiritual leaders offers his practical wisdom and advice on how we can overcome everyday human problems and achieve lasting happiness.

The Art of Happiness is a highly accessible guide for a western audience, combining the Dalai Lama’s eastern spiritual tradition with Dr Howard C. Cutler’s western perspective. Covering all key areas of human experience, they apply the principles of Tibetan Buddhism to everyday problems and reveal how one can find balance and complete spiritual and mental freedom.

For the many who wish to understand more about the Dalai Lama’s approach to living, there has never been a book which brings his beliefs so vividly into the real world.


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or if there is a book you would like to suggest for me i would love to hear from you.”